Look at this, two blog posts in a week.
I've been pondering friendship lately. I often do as my friend circle evolves and changes all the time. I have a lot of acquaintances, but not a lot of friends. It's changed because I used to have a lot more friends. I don't want pity I'm just talking. I made a decision a few years ago to circle my wagons and make that circle super small. I'd been hurt by people who I thought were my friends. They assumed things about me and did not come to ask me. It was hard.
My children also have had these things happen and I wonder about friendship a lot. What makes a good friend? A friend is one who asks how you're doing. A friend is happy for you in the good times and supports you in the bad. It can even only be a text. Of course, there are different levels of friendship, but this is basically it.
We've lost a lot of friends over the years and some because we knew why and some we had no idea about. The only thing I hope for is that the friends who are no longer friends don't pervert the memories of our friendships. What do I mean? That they don't talk with their friends about us. That we, either me, or any of my girls, don't become the subject of their gossip. I hope they say, yeah, we were friends, but we aren't any longer. It was good while it lasted but we drifted apart. Or if there was a major event to cause the rift that they say, yes, we're no longer friends and leave it at that.
I do grieve the loss of each and every friendship. Except for one person (I'm working super hard on this and pray about it all the time), I try to look at the good side of things, the happy memories.
I leave you with a picture because I like pictures in my blog post. Michaela has been friends with Nathaniel (kid on the right) since 2005.