Ben will be deploying sometime in the near future. We've been blessed (he would say cursed) with only one short 6 month deployment. That's not to say that we've been together day after day for years. The past year has been the longest time we've been together for consecutive days and I was the one gone for a couple of days in April.
We've been enjoying Ben's leave these past couple of weeks. He returns to work on Thursday where he will sign in and learn more details of his deployment. This starts the beginning of stress. Already we are close to the constant bickering that happens near separation. Deployments are even harder (yes, I know this even after just one).
So, we prepare. We prepare by packing in as much fun as possible in the time we have left. We prepare by purchasing all his necessary uniforms. We prepare all necessary legal documentation. And, we prepare by discussing what can be considered morbid things; details of a funeral. We have to be brutally honest and realize that even with a "safe" job, he will be in harms way. I would feel better with Iraq, but he's slated for Afghanistan. So, we discuss things so that if something should happen, decisions have been made to help alleviate some of the stress during a tough time. I don't know if other military families do this, but we do.
Oh, and Ben will promoted to Lieutenant Colonel next month. I'm proud of him; and the pay raise is nice.